What is Your Love Language?

The 5 Love Languages

What makes you feel loved?  Is it a note left on the bathroom mirror?  A kiss goodbye?  We are enthusiastic believers of Dr. Gary Chapman’s theory that we all have a primary love language… the way we feel most loved.  The 5 Love Languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.  This concept gave us an “ah ha” moment when we realized different things made us feel like we were loved and appreciated.  If Physical Touch is your partner’s love language, it won’t matter how many times you send flowers… your partner won’t feel loved.  Sending flowers is fantastic for the person whose love language is Receiving Gifts, but a foot massage will work magic for the person who craves Physical Touch.  Early in our relationship we devoured Dr. Chapman’s book and took his quiz… it created terrific results because we were able to find ways to show love to each other in ways that the other person received it.  Dr. Chapman says, “Many husbands and wives who had spent years struggling through marriages they thought were loveless discovered one or both spouses had long been showing love through messages that weren’t getting through. By recognizing their different love languages, they witnessed the rebirth of the love they thought had been gone for good.”  Luckily for us, we have the same love language: Physical Touch… our challenge is finding a way to make that work between our busy career, family time and volunteer efforts… but that’s the topic of another blog.  🙂  So, here’s the 5 Love Languages quiz… what’s yours?  Better yet… what’s your partner’s?

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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The Relationship Report Card

Have you ever thought about giving your spouse a report card grade?  We do it every week on our CBS Radio show (www.1037litefm.com).  We call it our “Relationship Report Card”…   and it’s a wheels-off peek into our Working Couple marriage.  Sometimes we get it right and earn an A… but realistically we receive a lot of D’s and F’s.  Oh well, we keep trying.  On this particular week Gene earned a C for being clueless.  Listen by clicking the player below.

So, what grade would you give your significant other this week?

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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Treat Your Spouse Like a VIP Client

Don’t you love to be treated like a rock star? We read a great story in “The Nordstrom Way to Customer Service Excellence” by Robert Spector and Patrick D. McCarthy. To paraphrase, a woman made a last-minute Nordstrom shopping trip before heading to the airport. After she left, the salesperson realized the woman accidentally left her airline ticket at the store. What did the saleswoman do? She hailed a cab, drove to the airport and hand-delivered the ticket to her customer with a warm smile. Isn’t that incredible? Nordstrom is famous for treating customers like a rockstar, and as a result we return again and again.

Now let’s play a game. Let’s use the same story about the woman who was shopping at Nordstrom; however, this time replace the woman in the story with your husband or wife. What would happen in your home if your spouse is the one who left an airline ticket on the kitchen counter? Would you graciously grab that ticket and race to the airport to deliver it with a smile? Or would you curse your loved one under your breath and bemoan how inconvenient this is for you– you are busy and don’t have time for this stupidity.

Frequently, we treat our most important clients with kindness, compassion and forgiveness. Unfortunately, that changes at home when we are overwhelmed with juggling carpool, soccer practice and dinner plans– we forget to extend the same courtesy to our spouse. Today treat your spouse like you would treat your most important customer. Have a spirit of kindness and helpfulness… it will definitely Ignite Your Couple Power!

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders
The Working Couple Network

Welcome to The Working Couple Network

Gene & Julie Gates

We met in 1995 and it was love at first sight.  There was only one problem: we were trying to start a business together.  We sprinted to a therapist and asked, “Are we completely crazy to want to build a working relationship and romantic relationship at the same time?”  She said it could work, and we haven’t looked back.

We are Gene & Julie Gates and for the past 16 years we have been in business together… hosting a morning radio program in some of America’s most exciting cities: Los Angeles, San Francisco, Dallas and Atlanta.  Like you, we get up from the same bed, commute in the same car, work in the same office and parent the same child.  It’s a 24/7 relationship… and we love it!  The #1 question we get every day is, “How on earth do you work together without killing each other?”  Most days are filled with fun and laughter.  Then there are the days we step on each other’s last nerve.  But there is nothing better than working with the love of your life.

Even though there are countless benefits to working with your spouse, couples who work together face unique challenges.  You don’t only discuss business strategy together, but you also have to figure out who’s getting Little One at carpool and when on earth are you going to have another Date Night.  When you’re a Working Couple and you schedule a conference call with your biggest client you have to hire a babysitter to make sure your 3-year-old isn’t singing “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” in the background.

Working together has been an incredible adventure, but we realized something crucial was missing from our life: a network of other crazy folks sharing these same experiences.  We needed a group of friends who could relate to the unique circumstances that only other couples working together could understand.  That’s the genesis of the Working Couple Network.  This is a place for Working Couples… those of us who are in the trenches who can offer fellowship, advice, successful strategies and products that have been lifesavers in optimizing our blended work/home lives.  We will post blogs, interviews with other successful Working Couples and coordinate gatherings.

We know firsthand you’ve got to have a  screw loose to work with your romantic partner… but it’s the most amazing and rewarding journey to travel.  Won’t you join us?

Welcome!

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network