Julie Andrews Says Take It One Day At A Time

Julie Andrews
Julie Andrews as “Mary Poppins”

Julie Andrews is simply magical.  She captured our hearts in “The Sound of Music” and “Mary Poppins”, and so far her incredible career has earned her the Academy Award, Emmy, Grammy, People’s Choice and Golden Globe Awards.  What many don’t know is Julie Andrews worked with her husband, Director Blake Edwards, for 41 years until he passed away in 2010.  On The Gene & Julie Show, Julie shared some insight on what it took to find long term success in her Working Couple marriage: 

Gene Gates: You’ve done a lot of work with your husband, right?

Julie Andrews: Yes, well we were married 41 years, how long have you guys been together?

Gene Gates: 16 years, we’ve got a way to go.

Julie Andrews: I’m glad you came through there, Gene. (laughs)

Julie Gates: So, what’s the secret to a successful marriage?

Julie Andrews: Very simple, take it one day at a time.  One day at a time.  Don’t think about the long haul, think about making it work every day, and believe it or not, it worked beautifully for us.

Gene Gates: How does that make it better, Julie?

Julie Andrews: That way you don’t have any preconceived notions or fantasies about the way it’s going to be one day, you deal with the way it is today.  And whatever the issues are, you get through them and that’s another day.  And the days do add up…  we were staggered.  But that’s what we vowed to do and it worked for us.

Julie Gates: Oh, I think that’s brilliant advice because you’re not putting expectations on anything.

Julie Andrews: That’s right. One always obviously has hopes and expectations when you get married, but just one day at a time make it work.

Gene Gates: And was your relationship any different at work versus at home?

Julie Andrews: Only in that I think Blake felt that I knew exactly what he wanted when sometimes I kept thinking, “Excuse me, can I just ask a question here?” I’m waiting to be guided as I would by any director, but he always assumed that I’d know what he wanted. 

Julie Gates: He assumed you could read his mind… well you could, you were his wife!

Julie Andrews:  It was great because we could talk shorthand… it was lovely.

We think Julie’s tip on taking marriage one day at a time is incredible advice.  Live in the moment.  Tackle each obstacle as it comes.  Don’t fret about the future.  She has a lot of wisdom and we’re delighted she shared it with us! 

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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Wendy Williams Tells Us ‘Be Brutally Honest’

Wendy Williams hosts the nationally syndicated "The Wendy Williams Show"
Wendy Williams hosts the nationally syndicated "The Wendy Williams Show"

Nationally syndicated television talk show host Wendy Williams is a busy woman.  She hosts “The Wendy Williams Show,” is wrapping-up her commitment on “Dancing With the Stars” and hosts the game show “Love Triangle.”  She does all this while working with her husband Kevin Hunter.  We recently spoke with Wendy about how they thrive as a Working Couple, and this is what she shared:

You have to really like each other as friends, and make it work.  My husband is one of the Executive Producers at “The Wendy Williams Show”, we also work together on the game show “Love Triangle” and he’s my manager.  We have a ten-year-old son and we’ve been married 12 years, so I have a really full life….  You have to understand that sometimes you have to be brutally honest with one another.  And your spouse can say things to you that your General Manager at the radio station can’t, so suck it up, go to your Mom Cave, cry your tears, then put your big girl panties on and get back out there.  Because as partners working, at the end of the day when you speak to your partner who is also your spouse, it’s about enriching your business but also your household… We’re live out of New York every day at 10 a.m. (The Wendy Williams Show),  and after the show I’m involved in business meetings and things like that.  A lot of times I’m on the telephone doing those things while I’m commuting back to Jersey where I become “Mrs. Hunter.”  Then I’m supervising homework.  I’m emptying the dishwasher.  I’m not the best cook, but I do have some signature favorites.  I consider myself a pretty good house manager here at our house.  I don’t leave the task of raising my family to others.

To listen to our entire radio interview with the warm and funny Wendy Williams, click here.  Now it’s your turn to share: in which areas of your Working Couple relationship are you brutally honest?  Are there areas where you can’t be honest because it would hurt the business or relationship?  Post your comments below on the topic of honesty in your working relationship.

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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Working Couple Profile #1: Janelle & Neal Hail

Janelle & Neal Hail of National Breast Cancer Foundation.

Welcome to our newest feature: the Working Couple Profile.  We are delighted to introduce you to other Working Couples who will share their insights, struggles and stories on how to successfully balance working together and thriving as a couple.  We’ll kick off the series with the wonderful Neal and Janelle Hail of National Breast Cancer Foundation.  Married 46 years this August and working together for 20, Neal is Co-Founder and Janelle serves as CEO.  Janelle shares this insight on how to manage too much togetherness:

As you know, just the thoughts of being together 24 hours a day at work and play has the potential of making a couple want to run and hide at times.  I take that back–jump off a cliff.  After nearly 46 years of marriage, we have learned to embrace not only life changes, but also our personal differences as a compliment to our marriage and business relationship.  Instead of my expecting Neal to be perfect like me, I use humor to point out that the bedroom tree coat grows branches as he piles clothes high on it over the weekend.  To his credit, not a leaf falls to the ground.  In turn, after months of saying nothing about seeing a wet washcloth folded up by the bathroom sink on my side and believing it was there 24 hours a day, I laughed and told him I wash my face in the evening and leave it there for the next morning so I can have a cold cloth to help awaken me.  I will say that double sinks in our bathroom has been the glue to our marriage.

We deeply respect each others’ capabilities and find that these differences supplement each other as our talents blend together.  Allowing each other to grow in our own interests gives us that feeling of always being at home with each other no matter what we are doing.  Even though Neal cannot embrace the complete euphoria I experience with my spa music, he likes the outcome of my relaxed, quiet demeanor.  I will never understand why he does not tire of Glenn Miller music, but how I love the happy expression that covers his face when his music cranks up.  That energy and zest for life comes from tapping into things you love to do.

Neal and I create places for our own space at home. We have separate home offices as well as work offices at our business.  Our offices reflect our personalities.  His home office has a strength and elegance to it as a featured room in our home, while mine has that comfy multi-project lived in look with a wall of ceiling-to-floor books.  We let each other “be”.  What a pleasure to be allowed to be yourself and explore your spaces at home–places to read, places to watch favorite TV shows while stretched out in our own spots on the couch, places to experiment in cooking, and so many more places that makes home a place to live and love.  All in all, we would rather be married to each other and live together for another 46 years than any gift we could ever ask for in life.

The mission of Janelle and Neal’s National Breast Cancer Foundation is to save lives through early detection and to provide mammograms to those in need.  You can learn more about their great work by going to www.nbcf.org or check out Janelle’s blog at www.janellehail.com.

You’ve read Janelle and Neal’s techniques… what do you do to manage too much togetherness? Do you create your own spaces at home or work?  Do you have your own interests?  Your insight might be a great solution for other Working Couples… we encourage you to post a comment as we build this great community.

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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The Relationship Report Card

Have you ever thought about giving your spouse a report card grade?  We do it every week on our CBS Radio show (www.1037litefm.com).  We call it our “Relationship Report Card”…   and it’s a wheels-off peek into our Working Couple marriage.  Sometimes we get it right and earn an A… but realistically we receive a lot of D’s and F’s.  Oh well, we keep trying.  On this particular week Gene earned a C for being clueless.  Listen by clicking the player below.

So, what grade would you give your significant other this week?

With Love,
Gene & Julie
Founders, Working Couple Network

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